In this season "Greater is He" is your fall back plan. Many Americans are feeling the impact from the global pandemic. Many have falling into fear, panic and anxiety nervous about what is to come.  The uncertainty of U.S. boarders, the presidential election, government changes, business shut downs, school closures and possible loss of constitutional rights is enough to make any human mind worry. In order to offer some comfort, let me what I believe God is about to do and what we must do to in order to make it out of this with our righteous minds. 

Prayer, self-reflection, re-positioning, preparation and rest is the first measure in protecting your peace of mind. As new updates are released daily, it's easy to be overcome with anxiety and nervousness...In our human form it's a natural reaction. However, as believers we have to tap into the truth and seek God for wisdom. The word of God is always a lamp for our feet and a light on our path. When we can't see, trusting God's supersedes all else. 

God will never leave you nor will He forsake you. We know Greater is He that is in us than he that is in the world. We know a thousand my fall at your side, and ten thousand at your right hand, BUT IT SHALL NOT COME NEAR YOU. We know ALL things work together for the good of those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. 

We know there is nothing to hard for God! In this season of uncertainty, you never have to question Gods plan and power. You are never alone. You never have to fear. You never have to question if God is with you. You do however have to pray, prepare, rest and re-position. 

If you start to feel overwhelmed or anxious - STOP - PRAY - REST - Re-POSITION (SPRR). 

At the end of this, God will get the glory and we shall overcome. If you can't do or remember anything else, remember to cast your cares upon Him, for He cares for you! Call upon Him and He will answer. Seek Him and find Him. 

Have a blessed week. Stay in peace, Stay well, Stay active and use SPRR when you start to forget who's you are. I promise it works if you work it. Please share and comment. I welcome your feedback. Let's keep the conversation going. 

I love everything about you and there is nothing you can do about it! 

XO, 

Lady Kay 
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Making your dreams come true starts with how you see yourself in your dream. Everyone can dream, however, everyone does not believe they are worthy of their dreams. Knowing that you are worthy of your dreams is the first step to manifesting your hearts desire. NOW faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.  

Let your faith, desires and beliefs cultivate your dreams giving you the power to do what must be done in order for you to see your dreams manifested. Do not waste one more day wishing, complaining or feeling sorry for yourself. Invest your time, energy and focus towards actions and plans moving you closer to your dreams. 

Dr. King had a dream. He took action steps to grow that dream. His perception of his purpose aligned with his dream and his focus was absolute. His dream was full of purpose, destiny and his unwavering determination left a legacy for many generations.  

What will your legacy be? What will people see when they look at your life? Is your vision clear and aligned with your purpose?  Are you determined to see your dreams through to the end? 

Make the rest of your life the best of your life knowing you are worthy of all good things. And don't believe the hype... Good things come to those who go out and get it.

Peace, love and light, 

Lady Kay 

A new decade presents a new chance to embrace freedom. Freedom is your passport to explore life without limits, to love freely, and to embrace necessary change. 

I challenge you to make 2020 your year of freedom and exploration. This is the perfect time to invest in yourself, travel the world and do what makes you happy. 

Freedom was once given. Today, freedom is a choice. Everyone has the ability to live freely...heart, body and soul. 

You can do more of what you love and desire when you learn the basics. Here are 20 ways to create a life of freedom and simplicity: 
1. Love Yourself Over Everything 
2. Trust God 
3. Stress about nothing, pray about everything 
4. Learn what you can live without 
5. Save
6. Consume less, give more, and invest in yourself 
7. Find balance 
8. Make your health a priority 
9. Smile 
10. Show kindness 
11. Spend quality time with people you love
12. Travel 
13. Read 
14. Journal once a week 
15. Stop doing things that you don't want to do
16. Live in your purpose 
17. Love again 
18. Volunteer 
19. Go to therapy or work with a coach 
20. Never forget who you...Never settle for less 

May 2020 be a year of clarity, freedom and purpose. You are here for a reason, don't let another year or decade find you lost, broken, bitter, unclear, unfocused, frustrated, angry, reluctant or regretful. Let it go. Forgive. Move on. Trust God. Do everything with purpose. Know that you are more than whatever held you back. After today, choose to move forward and do not look back. 

Peace and blessings, 
Kay

Many times, people find themselves with the Holiday blues. If that’s you or someone you know, I want to encourage your heart this morning. Let this year be the year you control your emotions, thoughts, intentions and actions. Here are a few tips to overcome the holiday blues:
 

1. Resist the temptation to isolate yourself. Make plans to move around even if its short excursions to your favorite coffee shop, movie, vacation, a long drive or to the makeup counter. I don’t know about you but playing in makeup and indulging in a holiday flavored cup of joe makes me smile just a little bigger. Oh, and don’t forget the eggnog and yes, it’s in your local grocer.  Whatever makes you happy – Do it.

 

1. If you suffer with loneliness find a cause volunteer your time, visit the elders, family or friends. You might feel along but you are never truly alone unless you choose to be. Filling your space with loved ones is a great way to occupy your time, thoughts and emotions. There is always a cause greater than yourself where you can make a difference. Annually, it’s my mission to be a blessing for less fortunate families in my community. It’s my way of giving back and taking my mind off the fact that another year has passed, and I am still SINGLE (Shocked? Me too LOL). We all have a something to be down about. However, we all have choices. Make a choice to overcome this holiday season. Be proactive and make this the best holiday season ever.

 

1. Missing loved ones. The holidays always seem harder when loved ones are no longer with us. For a long time, Christmas was not the same after losing my grandmother.  Christmas was her favorite holiday. It was hard a first. Over the years it got easier. As an adult I choose to honor her by making sure the family gathers around good food, good times, and good laughs making good memories. It helps to know her legacy lives through me. Make a decision how you will honor those you love. Make a toast, post their picture, light a candle, make a donation to a charity they loved in their honor, play their favorite holiday music, make their favorite dish etc. And if it’s still too hard, make sure you see a professional grief counselor. Processing grief looks differently for everyone. I pray, this season will bring joy and peace to all who have lost loved ones.

 

1. Other Activities and Tips: Eat Well. Drink Well. Exercise. Decorate your home (that’s huge). Enjoy a glass of eggnog. Go to a play or movie. Treat yourself to a spa day. Travel. Go see family you haven’t seen in a while. Forgive yourself and others. Love yourself deeper. Dress well, keep your appearance up – when you look good you feel good (It’s true). Above all, keep moving, pray and seek help if the blues get to heavy.

 
Today, I invite you to be a part of my holiday mission. Normally my organization hosts a holiday party to raise money for our holiday charity event. This year, we are asking you make a donation to help support 10 to 15 less fortunate families this holiday season. With your support together, we can make it happen. Consider making a tax-deductible donation of any amount today. Proceeds will go toward providing needed items to families with children this holiday season. Thank you in advance for your support.
 
Happy Holidays to all,
 
Lady Kay ​

Everyone is born with a greater purpose. Yet, many never reach the level in life where the actualize their greatness. A lot of people give up before they give themselves a change to become self-aware of their gifts and superpowers. We all have them, but many are afraid to use them. Many people feel unworthy of their God given gifts, so much so they work harder to avoid the truth than allowing the truth to make them free (I am talking to you, I'm talking to me). For many years I stayed in the shadow because thats where I believed I belonged.  After a certain age, I felt like it was too late, I had missed my changes.  Life is unpredictable and hard. It will throw curve balls aimed at your head purposed to take you out or to motivate you. Only you can decide which path to take. 

It's easier for some to take what life brings vs creating the life you want. Creating the life you want takes courage, faith and fortitude.  No matter how old you get or how badly you feel, or how far behind you think you are - IT'S NEVER TOO LATE, God is always faithful. 

What if you were the change you wanted to see in your world? What if you decided to push through life with purpose no matter what came your way? What if you decided it was not too late and your dreams and aspirations were worth the fight? What if you decided to be the generational curse breaker? What if you believed in yourself and in your greatness? What if you you accepted your God given gifts? 

I was taught there is no reward without risk. People who are afraid to risk is all in life, love or money lead unfulfilled lives. Remember this; IT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD AND TO LEAVE A LEGACY. THE ONLY THING YOU CAN TAKE WITH YOU WHEN YOU DIE IS WHAT YOU LEAVE BEHIND. DEEP WITHIN US ALL, THERE IS AN INNER LONGING TO LIVE A LIFE OF GREATNESS AND CONTRIBUTION.

​Today, I encouraged you to walk by faith having the courage to step out of your comfort zone and into a place of power and greatness and enjoy every moment. 

With love, 
Lady Kay 

Life is about growth and evolving into your greater self. As we live, we learn. As we learn, we grow. I have been growing and investing myself, my time, and my energy into actions that are helping me create a new narrative and path for my life.

Because stepping out of your comfort zone is a major challenge, consider how aware you are about your life, your current reality and then consider if what you see is what you desire. Sometimes we have desires, yet our actions do not support what we desire. Personally, I have had to take time for self-reflection and I didn't like what I saw. It takes honesty and courage to walk outside your comfort zone. I had to put my big girl panties on. Because I didn’t like what I saw and made a choice - a decision - to do something about it. Change is never easy, but neither is staying in a situation no longer serving you.
 
Here are 5 ways to start your journey to mindfulness, awakening and change:
 

1. Read something different once or twice a month. This will open your viewpoints and help you create a new narrative.
2. Set up a lunch date with someone who is not in your regular circle. This will increase your circle of connections and also expand your opportunity for reaching your goals. This will also be a reflection of trusting the process. 
3. TRAVEL – repeat after me... TRAVEL IS GOOD. TRAVEL IS NECESSARY. TRAVEL WILL CHANGE MY LIFE. This is one of the biggest changes I have made next to getting healthy. Visit a new place once a quarter or as often as you can. Traveling is healing, and it gives you a fresh perspective about life and what you want.
4. Enthusiasm – Find something you are inspired by. Every day, you should be surrounded by something or someone who inspires you. Inspiration is medicine to the soul. When I am inspired I feel free to do and be authentically me.
5. Say Yes – Say yes to your dreams. Say yes to whatever scares you. Say yes to doing something new and exciting. Say yes to becoming a better you. Say yes to making Bold Moves.

 
Self-discovery and self-development is one of the most beneficial things a person can do for themselves. However, it’s the least taught skill in America. Don’t be afraid to seek and find a life that helps you create a new normal. Get out of your comfort zone. Give yourself a chance to do something you have never done before. Even if you have tried it before and it didn’t turn out the way you hoped, try it again.
 
From my heart to yours, I wish you new life, greater inner peace and a world of happiness.
 
Blessings,

Lady Kay 

  
Let’s get a few things straight...I am not perfect but perfectly imperfect. 
 
I have red hair, I love soul music, I cuss when I get real mad (don't judge me), I love to have a good time, I enjoy traveling and living my life, I love a good bottle of wine and I LOVE GOD. 
 
If you grew up with super religious parents or grandparents, it’s likely you adopted their religious pathology about what it means to be Christian and to love God. One of the biggest misnomers I’ve heard is, having fun is irresponsible and Christian’s should serve God, go to church, women should wear skirts and dresses, don’t laugh, don’t smile, look super saved, act holy, don’t hug too tight, roll your eyes and raise hell to let people know you are important...LOL Where is the God in this? The truth is old religious mentalities are not Biblical and they do not serve the Kingdom.

The definition of abundance is “Ample or very large quantities.”
It’s impossible to live in abundance, serve a big God and not have fun. Being super saved and highly minded (aka super saved) does not make you a better Christian, it does not draw people to God, and it does not mean you will go to heaven.
 
God’s love compels people to come unto Him. If people who have not yet come to Christ witness “God’s people” being uptight, mean, super religious, judgmental and unapproachable they will never come. Joyce Myer (I love her practical outlook on life and God’s word) talked about how she wished she would have done more things she loved throughout her life. She shared how she was deceived to think Christian’s should not enjoy life, live in abundance, and enjoy precious moments with family and friends that mean the most. I learned early that the God I grew up hearing about, was not the God I had a relationship with. Who is God to you? Who does God say you are and what you can have?
 
Repeat after me:
 
I CAN LOVE GOD AND LIVE A FUN FULLING LIFE, if I DECIDE TO DO SO.
I WILL TAKE MORE BREAKS AND NOT FEEL GUILTY.
I WLL LAUGH, SING, DANCE, SCREAM AND RUN without FEELing GUILTY.
I WILL MAKE EVERY MOMENT OF MY LIFE COUNT.
I WILL TRAVEL AND USE ALL MY VACATION TIME.
I WILL PUT MYSELF FIRST AND ENJOY GODS BOUNTY
I WILL TAKE MORE CHANCES ON MYSELF.
I WILL SPEND MONEY ON THINGS I LIKE AND DESIRE
I WILL NOT TAKE MYSELF OR LIFE TOO SERIOUSLY
I WILL ENJOY BEING ALIVE AND ENJOYING DOING ONLY WHAT MAKES ME HAPPY
 
When we declare statement like these over and over, eventually the things you speak will start to manifest. Our life is full of whatever you manifested. Think about what you tell yourself and see how your life lines up with what you speak.
 
My advice: Give yourself permission to do and be whatever you want. Just a few short months ago, God challenged me to focus on myself (a foreign act). I loved to serve, it’s a gift. I grew up serving with my grandmother in church. She was over the hospitality ministry (although that’s not what they called it back then). She cooked, cleaned and made everyone feel welcome. She might have cussed in the process, but she did everything grand, with heart and passion. I followed her footsteps and serving people and making them happy has always brought me joy.
 
When I stopped to think about the other things she did, I realized my grandmother lived. She was always the life of the party, she traveled, lived well, worked hard, and traveled. Looking back with adult eyes, my grandmother might have been the only person I saw enjoy life the way she did and for no other reason than because it’s what she wanted to do, and it brought her much joy.
 
As a young 30 something with no children and no husband – I am 100% determined to do whatever makes me happy. I’m determined to laugh, love, serve, travel, eat well, love God and whatever else I choose to do.
 
There is power in choice. A lot of people say, “I had to do this or that”, and I kindly tell them you never HAVE to do anything, but what you choose to do is totally up to you. You can’t choose to do something then get made about the choice you made. When someone asks me to do something and I’m not available; I kindly say I’m unavailable OR I refer them OR offer them other resources to research the information. In the past, I felt like I HAD TO DO IT which made the task a burden. The Bible talks about giving ungrudgingly. When you find yourself about to do something you really don’t want to do, it’s better to say NO than to do it grudgingly.
 
Remember this:
Give yourself grace.
Give yourself the best of you daily.
Embrace the word “No” without guilt.
Be brave.
Be a cheerful giver or don’t give it.
It’s OK to love God and have fun.
Abundance is your birthright.
 
Here’s to you and I living life and enjoying the journey. Thank you for your time and a chance to share space and love. I’m always grateful for your time.
 
Blessings,
 
Lady Kay

My Fat Girl Confession:
 
I have been a big girl most of my adult life. The Yo-Yo weight has been a problem since 2005. I was diagnosed with Crohns decease 2004 and lost over 100lbs. I thought I was going to die; it took the medial professionals almost a year to diagnosis me. They finally got the right doctor, diagnosis and medications... praise God I am still here.
 
2006 ended my college relationship with someone I loved deeply, and thought would be my forever. Shortly after, I decided this was the perfect time to go away to grad school. I moved to Washington, D.C. and life was good for a change. I keep my weight down. Living in the city was good for me. It was nothing to walk 10 blocks or more a day. Every corner had healthy food options and if you ate something that wasn’t too heathy, by the time you walked home, to work or the train depot you burned those calories right off. I had active friends and family. The whole situation was just better, but then life hit and I was reminded of my auto-immune disease.
 
2009 I was forced to moved back to NC during a very bad Crohns flare. I could not take care of myself, couldn’t walk and steps were a NO-NO. After returning to NC - BOOM – the weight I was able to keep off in the city is back. 2014-2015, I drop 100lbs over the span of a year and BOOM – maybe a year later I gained it right back. Present day, I’m at the heaviest weight I’ve ever been (which is frustrating) however, I decided about 40 days ago that I deserve the best of me.
 
What does that mean? I evaluated my habits, triggers and patterns. The thing that stuck out the most was my need to help, serve and be there for others. I have a long history of taking care of everyone else BUT ME.  
 
I read a book (I read a lot now) that talked about Yo-Yo weight. The author talked about how there are different ways to sow and reap. I love the art of sowing and reaping so this got my attention. The author suggested sowing self-control into your spirit and asking God to show you triggers with food and allow Him to heal you.

When I read this, a light went off and I said this can work. No matter what you sow you will reap (that's the law). So, every time my mind starts thinking about foods I can’t have or that aren’t good for me, I say “I deserve the best of me and I right now I choose to sow self-control into myself”. True enough, it works. Renewing my mind has been very helpful. This new revelation about sowing and reaping really blessed me and I hope it will bless you as well. 
 
If you struggle with yo-yo weight or weight at all, you are not alone. 80% of people who have lost weight regain all of it or more after two years. Not very encouraging however, knowledge is power. In order to do better you have to know better and once you know better and do better you can reach back and teach someone else. It’s the circle of life.
 
I am committed to giving myself the best of me no matter what it takes. I have stopped doing a lot of things I did before because I need me right now. And the truth is no one is going to take better care of me than me besides my mama. Which is why, for now, it’s all about me.
 
Being fat was never a big deal, I mastered how to be fat. Now I am ready to master being healthy. Weight has been my number one struggle my entire life. I don’t do drugs, I don’t drink, I don’t gamble, I don’t smoke but I do love a good piece of cake LOL.
 
No matter what your thing is, choose to love you more and sow into yourself. Help you, save you, sow into you; they say life is short and they are right. Make every day the best day of the rest of your life and give yourself the best of you each and every day.
 
Here’s to us learning, growing and changing so we can live and lead full lives. I hope I have earned the pleasure of your time. I am always grateful when you stop by my blog. Be sure to comment and share.
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XO,
Kay
 
Power Payer - Father, thank you for loving me when we didn’t’ know how to love myself. Thank you for giving me another chance to get it right. Help me Lord to seek you first in all I do, say and eat. Give me a hunger for heathy living. Change my taste buds and give me strength to sow goodness, self-control, kindness and self-love in my souls and body that I might reap a great harvest which leads to a long and full life.  In the Mighty name of Jesus, Amen.