Historically, the word "Fat" has been attached to negative undertones. Someone calls you fat, you take it as an insult instead of a fact. Why is that? Who decided fat was a mean and hateful word? Who decided because someone is fat that makes them unworthy? We were raised to believe words have power. Words can hurt or words can heal. Words can empower or imprison a person. How many times have negative words impacted your own life?
Let’s face it! It’s 2017 and FAT people are redefining the term as we know it. Fat is as fat does.
I teach women their power and confidence is WITHIN. Choosing to believe this truth is what separates the personal perceptions of those who see the word FAT as negative. When the word is simply descriptive of a person physical nature, not making it good or bad. FAT just is! Just as skinny…is just skinny! Once you get past the physical parts of people, you are left with the heart and soul of what really makes a person GREAT & not FAT nor SKINNY!
Which bring me to this video I came across on social media. I love this video. I love what it stands for. I love the message. I hope it blesses you too.
At the end of the day, it’s all about what you believe and how you choose to believe in yourself. Everyone has the choice to be great! Being fat, happy and free... is just a bonus!
Here's to being Powerful & Plus,
Happy Motivation Monday to all My Loves... I am so excited about life and I pray you are too. Today's motivation comes from a place of self acceptance and self love. You must see yourself beautiful and powerful just as you are today. You must love even your greatest flaw, understanding acceptance is FREEDOM!
My Reflection's About This Photo Taken from Our Last Production Inspired Today's post:
Covered & Confident! Bold & Empowered! Slaying & Sexy! Beautify & Thick! Powerful & Worthy. Changed & Living. As you pull on the power within. Know, love, and value your reflection in the mirror! Embrace being BBW, thick, fat, curvy & plus.Embrace being smart, talented, loving and kind. Your body does not define you but it does require respect and self love. Do what makes you happy. Stop waiting for permission to be great. Change what you don't like and accept the things you cannot change. Trust in a power greater than yourself. Find your purpose and be relentless. And most importantly, learn to value your thoughts more than the thoughts of others! Find us online at www.irockmycurvesthebest.com and join the conversation today. #MotivationMonday#IRMC #IAMMYSISTER
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Repeat After Me....I AM STRONG!
The power of life is in the tongue. Learning to command your thoughts begins with challenging your personal perceptions of yourself. Everyday, is a new opportunity to declare "I AM STRONG" for no other reason than YOU CAN & YOU ARE! As women we have the power to overcome and endure a lot. Sometimes in the process of giving and taking care of everyone else we forget to take care of ourselves.
However, my purpose is to help women find, keep and express their righteous truth declaring daily powerful affirmations that give life to the inner depths of your heart, mind, body, and soul.
Take The "I AM" Challenge.
Create your own I AM statements and repeat them daily for 30 days. Check in with me to note your thoughts and progress.
Peace, Love & Light,
Set Up to WIN!!!!!!!
Everyday you wake up is a new day to create space within your life where YOU WIN!
How do you create space in your life to WIN? Here are my 10 steps to YOU WIN:
1. Take time to enjoy things/people that matter most to you. Even if you have to do them alone.
2. Incorporate 30 minutes a day of protected time where you focus on nothing but you.
3. Practice telling yourself and others the truth.
4. Decide you are worth the investment it takes to get you to the next level in your life, business, ministry or career (Press in...do the work!).
5. Learn how to fail and understand failure is a stepping stone to greatness.
6. STOP putting yourself last...!
7. Create positive affirmations and recite them daily.
8. Stay away from negative people. It OK to cut people out of your life who mean you no good, no matter how much you love them.
9. Focus on things you have control over and learn to make sound decisions.
10. Control your thoughts, train your tongue and master your REACTIONS!
I hope these 10 steps to winning help you streamline your life and create space and opportunity for you to WIN. Everyone is designed to win and win big. God's plan for our life is to prosper...!
Prosper defined means to succeed, flourish, grow strong, thrive, and my favorite...DO ALL THINGS RIGHT for ONESELF!
Until next time, be better than good and greater than most!
The fashion industry has finally decided to catch up to the fact fat girls are worth billion's...yes billions of dollars. Why do I call it fat fashion? So glad you asked. For years, designers and buyers kept the runways were full of skinny fashions for industry models and celebrities. Trending fashions for the skinny and skinnier. Meanwhile, neglecting the average woman size 16 to 22 and totally ignoring any size over 26-28, leaving the fat girls to fend for ourselves. Creatively forced to seek other means of defining fat fashion, plus size, curvy women and designers should be credited for the current TRENDING cash cow coins being made from the same women neglected in fashion for several years.
Go Plus Size GO! If you are blessed to be a member of the curvy plus size community there are a few things you must know. We were never out of style, we were just ignored. We were never ugly, but never given credit for being beautiful. We were never undesirable, but hated in the media. Fat has never been wrong. Fat has never been ugly. I have been a fat girl all my life. The word "fat" has been used to make women feel bad about themselves for years. It has been a weapon insinuating fat women are not good enough the way they are. Well, I'm not going to hate my body any more and neither should you. Fat or not, I am going to love my curves - my fat - my body - my hips - my lips - my hair - my face and everything in between! I URGE YOU TO DO THE SAME.
My fat girl status is NOT a scare but a beauty mark! Check out a few pictures from the 2015 fat girl runway show I produced in Greensboro. It was epic...
With Fat Girl Love,
4. Get over people's thoughts, concepts and opinions of you! ASAP!
5. Understand there is nothing you can't do. 6. You never have to settle for less...especially with men. 7. Big is beautiful. 8. Know you have something of value to offer to others. 9. Embrace your fears. 10. STOP HIDING...Just because you are fat. Fat is no longer a scarlet letter!!!
I get sick and tired of the world defining what's NORMAL, what's pretty and what's acceptable. I would love for anyone to live a day in my fat girl shoes. The simple fact is everyone can't be a fat girl! We go through so much and skinny people have no idea how much awesomeness it takes to be a big, beautiful, plus size, curvy and voluptuous woman. Society has tricked people into thinking “skinny” is better.
My questions is...have you looked at a magazine lately???? BBW's are everywhere! LOL! We are regaining the confidence stripped from us by the world's superficial norms. God did not create everyone to look the same. But He created us in His image and what does God look like....! Think of a color, a size, a shape, long hair, short hair, big nose, small nose, fat, skinny, tall or short. Pick one...God is all of that. So from this point on...Remember how fearless and wonderful you are created by a God that loves you just the way you are. Only thing you have to do now...FAT GIRL, I love and accept yourself.
So listen! You get one life. Live it! Be Big. Be Bold. Be Beautiful. Embrace yourself right where you are in life. If there is something you don't like...change it. If you can't change it, change the way you think about it and MOVE ON. The biggest mistake people make is wasting time on things of no value and purpose.
So to all my fat sistah's...Say it Loud..."I'm Fat & I'm Proud"!
As far back as I can remember, I never saw myself as fat. I saw myself simply as Kenyatta -- bold, brilliant and amazing. One of the defining moments in my life as a fat girl was in college. Imagine being the biggest girl on your floor…the 3rd floor at that. I checked into my dorm Dodge Hall on the campus of Livingstone College and was so excited. My folks were glad to see me go off to college and do great things. They helped me move my things in and get settled. Like most people you’re unsure of how things are going to be. You’re “fresh meat” and new to college life. Where I came from too many girls in one place was not going to end well.
For the most part things went very well. Each floor had 10 rooms with two ladies in each room. There was one main bathroom with three toilet stalls and three shower stalls. All the ladies on my hall were considered skinny weighing in around 145 pounds or less. The first few weeks of school I noticed a pattern with the ladies on my hall. They were always almost half naked and some completely were naked and comfortable in their skin. They would go to the bathroom topless, in towels or opened robed. I watching thinking to myself “here I am trying to be the respectful young lady my parents raised and these chicks get to walk around naked!” No ma’am! So I got myself together and joined in the fun. I stopped trying to cover up my juiciness; I stopped trying to be what I thought was respectful and I just relaxed in the fact they were paying me no attention whatsoever. I was walking around half naked just like they were. Let me just say this was the best time of my life! Thinking back, my college experience really helped shape and prepare me for this movement. Being forced to face the fact that my body was my body and my body was beautiful even at 300 pounds made the difference for me. So I walked around like the skinny girls and they accepted me because I accepted myself. Before you knew it my floor mates knew one thing about Kenyatta -- “She’s crazy, she’s real and she loves to be half naked too!”
Don’t get me wrong…my message will never promote being overweight as an excuse not to be healthy. The reality is most women who are overweight have other underlying medical issues which go undiagnosed. Many women have been through traumatic experiences causing emotional eating disorders and other unhealthy habits. A lot of us need professional interventions but for fear of judgment we would rather cover up the pain. On the other end, there are some who just don’t know how to maintain their weight (like me!) I do good to eat once a day and twice if I am thinking about it. Eating a full meal is not always on my agenda. I also have a major problem with sweets. Sweets are my weakness! Both are things I can work on and master with consistency. Y’all stay tuned for that update LOL!
So as we go into this Cute& Curvy Spring season, DON’T BE AFRAID to be who you are in the body you have. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. I encourage each of you to get one on one with yourselves and love on you. Treat the woman in the mirror like a queen and give her permission to rock out this spring. Get out of the dark clothes…they don’t make you look smaller. Get out of the house…the house makes you fat (HA!) and get out of your head and out of your own way! Fear is not your friend. Challenge yourself to try new things and if you need a push find a friend and support each other in your efforts to do so.
Take the Cute & Curvy Challenge! Every day of spring, write down one thing you did that made you feel good about yourself. Keep a journal and track your progress. If there is something reflecting in your mirror you don’t like, find three ways to help you begin to change the reflection. You no longer have permission not to deal with you issues. You no longer have permission not to live your best life. You no longer have permission to care about others opinions of yourself more than what you think of you. You do however have permission to LOVE YOU. You have permission to WEAR COLORS. You have permission to keep yourself looking FLY & FAB. You have permission to BE FREE.
There was a period in my life where I allowed my size and other’s opinions of me to keep me from doing things I always wanted to do like dance, travel, wear a bathing suit and go on the beach. I would not allow myself to have fun and be in places where I thought people could see me hiding because of my size. Then I made a decision to be beautiful, to be big, to be fabulous and to love me even when no one else would. Then and only then did my life start to change for the better. Is every day perfect? NO! But every day I get better and better because I am OK with who God made me to be. My purpose has always been to help others. So I hope this has helped you understand you are more than your weight. Be Beautiful. Be You. Be Inspired.
Be Cute & Curvy,
Hey guys...I'm Kenyatta more affectionately known as Lady Kay. Welcome to Kay's Korner..I hope you connect, create and find transparency, love and encouragement. I am here for you and me! Let's live out loud together. Blessings, Kay